Every parent of a little boy has a chance to make the world a better, stronger, and safer place by raising him to become a strong, law-abiding, God-fearing man.
The task is not rocket science but involves dedication and some common sense. Here are 4 simple rules that will help you.
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We waited to find out the gender of our second baby until the birth because I knew it would likely be my last. He came out another boy so now I am officially a #boymom!
I feel it is my duty to both of my sons and to their future wives to raise them to be strong and chivalrous.
The world needs moral men who are leaders. This is the only way we can assure a cohesive society for future generations.
Lately I have noticed a strange push in western culture to emasculate men. Some crazy people even want children to choose their own gender! They say this is how to be “inclusive” or “accepting” of people who are different. I see this for what it really is, another way Satan is trying to weaken our families, culture, and steal the joy God intended for us with the unique capabilities of each gender.
Now more than ever, parents of boys are challenged with how to raise them to solidify a better future for all of humanity. In this article, I will tell you the simple things I am doing.
4 Truths to Raise Boys into Strong Men
1. Teach boys about God
Our culture has taken God out of everything. Heck, they even tried to take God out of the Pledge of Allegiance! It’s time for families to stand up and say no to biblical cancel culture. If we don’t get our act together on this one, our society is surely doomed.
The only way to lay a firm foundation of morality is if there is a rock-solid standard to go off. The Bible offers this unwavering standard to parents which means there is no need to reinvent the wheel.
Ephesians 6:1-3 gives the very first instructions for children beautifully. 1. Children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. 2. Honor thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise); That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
As our children grow, new challenges will appear at every age but the standard of behavior doesn’t change. We should teach our sons to embrace honesty and Godliness in all seasons of their childhood.
2. Face time
Interacting, playing, and talking with boys is the second most important way to raise them well. That may seem like common sense but these days it really does take extraordinary effort to make sure you are spending quality time together and not overusing electronics to fill the day.
I personally find playing transformers with my son to be so dull but I tolerate it for short intervals because I know it makes him so happy. I believe my participation in his favorite play activities build report. I want him to feel that our relationship is deeper than me being an authority figure and I hope it inspires him to heed my advice.
Right now, one of my favorite ways to introduce new ideas to my oldest son is to go on walks together. He is four years old and going through the endless question phase.
We walk together and discuss everything imaginable and I try my best during that time to fully answer all his questions.
I am still a young mother but I imagine as my boys grow older, we will engage in lots of active hobbies together as another way to keep our bond strong. I see us fishing, hiking, snowboarding, climbing, camping, and attending their favorite sporting events.
I plan to always make a personal effort to take interest in what they enjoy.
3. Positive male figures
I am going to talk about fathers in this section.
In a perfect world, every mom and dad would be married and stay together. I know this is not the reality of the world we live. I went and looked up some statistics from the 2020 census and 29% of kids are living with one parent. The majority of that 29% are being raised by single mothers. (source)
There are just some roles that women cannot fill.
If a boy is to grow into a strong man, he needs someone to represent what that actually means. A positive male influence throughout his childhood doesn’t have to be the same person in every situation but if a boy is without a father then his mother should actively seek situations for her son to be around trustworthy males.
Around age 3 to 5 years old you will notice your child becoming interested in the differences between boys and girls. This is a pivotal time where a male influence can help them. (source)
A boy will watch the way his father treats his mother and learn how to treat women with respect. Sure you can tell them about chivalry but better to grow up seeing this behavior emulated each and every day.
A father or father-figure will roughhouse with his boys. This primal instinct, helps to further solidify manliness into the mindset of young boys.
Lastly, a father can pass down basic life skills that will save him a ton of headache later on in life and make him more appealing as a spouse.
I can personally attest to this as my husband can fix almost anything, build almost anything, and is such a problem solver, that I never really worry about anything. It is so nice to be able to concentrate on things I am good at and enjoy and not have to struggle watching YouTube videos on how to repair a garbage disposal.
4. Pay attention to what is happening at school
Now more than ever it is of the upmost importance for parents to pay attention to what their children are being taught at school. There are things being snuck in the public school curriculum that are going to have devastating outcomes for our boys and for society at large.
Just the other day I went to a protest at the local school administrative building (even though I have no intentions of placing my own kids in public school) because they are implementing Critical Race Theory in my town.
If you don’t know what this is it is basically an extremely divisive curriculum that points a magnifying glass on race and seeks to label people with dark skin as oppressed by people with light skin.
Now I shouldn’t have to say this but I am 50% Mexican 50% European. That is my heritage and it has NOTHING to do with the success and failures I have had in life.
Why in the world would we teach our little impressionable children to even notice something such as the color of someone’s skin and not teach them how to discern the content of their classmate’s character? One of the greatest leaders in American history, Martin Luther King taught us to do the exact opposite of this! Why can we not learn from our history?
Not only is this an absolutely disgusting way to indoctrinate our children to be racist against each other it simultaneously takes time away from learning things that actually matter like how to read, write, math, and our great national history.
Any parent with common sense won’t fall privy to these lies. They are even trying to teach sex education to KINDERGARDNERS in some schools!
This is why parents can no longer send their precious angles to school without taking an active role in getting to know the teachers, curriculum, and processes.
We need our schools to uphold the same positive values that we try to instill at home so if there is any way you can get involved in bettering America’s education system, you will be doing a service to your country and your son’s friends.
There are a million other things that could be said on how to raise boys into strong men but to me, these are the top four areas to concentrate on.
I am not a perfect parent by any means but I care a whole lot. I want to make the world a better place. I believe one of the greatest ways anyone can accomplish this is by putting extraordinary effort into raising the next generation.
I really enjoyed reading the book Bringing up Boys which gives advice specifically to fathers and specifically to mothers and is written from a Christian standpoint. I highly recommend it for anyone who wants to learn more on this topic.